Should You Be Concerned About Your Sexting Habit?
By: Mayumi Cabral
SEXTING (verve): the act of text messaging someone in the hopes of having a sexual encounter with them later; initially casual, transitioning into highly suggestive and even sexually explicit
What is “sexting”?
It is a combination of the words “sex” and “text.” It is the act of sending, receiving, or forwarding sexually explicit messages, photographs or images, via mobile devices. Smart phones with high quality camera and video capabilities have taken the idea of phone sex to a whole new level. Sexting builds big anticipation and clues using photos and videos at things to come before dating your guy. It can put you two in a sexy mood hours before you see each other and set the stage for a passionate night.
While sexting helps ignite things between the sheets and helps you and your partner explore ways to express yourselves sexually, if it falls on the wrong hands, this spells disaster. Before you get excited, here are some important points to guide you through your sexting experience. These six sexting guidelines will help charge up your sex life without putting a dent in your privacy.
Avoid sexting too early in a relationship.
Don’t’ sext too soon — make sure your partner is trustworthy because you will be sharing delicate data. You should take the time to make sure you trust the person that you want to sext.
Don’t sext when drunk.
Alcohol and mobile phone isn’t a good combination. The ample amount of alcohol in your system may resolve the awkwardness in the conversation – but you don’t want to reach your phone in the morning regretting all those sex messages and uncompromising videos or photos. Don’t sext unless you are sober because there is a big possibility that the message may not reach its intended recipient. You may also send the wrong thing that will turn your partner off or look like you are begging for sex.
Don’t show your face.
Avoid sending pictures with your face in the shot. Someday you’re going to marry and have kids. There’s a big possibility that those photos are going to surface, and you don’t need them and the entire world seeing your private parts. Remember, relationships can go wrong.
Be mindful of where he is.
You might be feeling playful and wanting to surprise him, but make sure to ask where he is before pulling the trigger on a steamy text. You wouldn’t want an inappropriate message popping up on your husband’s phone while he’s in a board meeting or a picture of you in lingerie coming across your boyfriend’s screen while he’s with his mom in a church.
Clean as you go.
It doesn’t matter if you are hiding something from someone; make sure to erase all your conversation after the sexting. Imagine if your friends or family members are creeping through your mobile devices and see those naughty messages and images, or if those end up in the wrong hands, it’s game over for you. But be reminded too that cleaning up your gadget isn’t enough — once digital images are out there, they leave a digital footprint, especially online. You can’t take it back. Deleting post or message is no safeguard against it having already been received, copied, and sent to others.
Do a Snapchat!
To make sure your guy isn’t flipping that phone screen around to his buddies at the bar don’t send naughty photos via text , message apps and email. This is what Snapchat is made for. Unlike sending pictures or videos on Viber or Whatsapp and other apps, which automatically get saved to your camera roll, the photos you send using Snapchat can’t be saved. Your photos or videos are apparently lost forever after the set time (you can choose anywhere from 1-10 seconds). But beware of screenshotting — if however, someone screenshots what you’ve sent them on Snapchat, Snapchat lets you know that they have done so.